Gratitude… even at 2

•March 16, 2012 • Leave a Comment

I like to think my efforts in teaching my children gratitude will prove to be time well spent. Tonight, I got a little glimmer of hope that its working, when my 28 month old son said, “Bye-bye water. Thank you for making me clean!” As he drained the tub after his bath. ūüėČ

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This train has been building its momentum, so stay off the tracks if you wanna survive!

•March 9, 2012 • Leave a Comment

‚Äé2012 Journey = FAB-U-LOUS!!! Already have ‘non-smoker’, ‘healthy eating’, ‘back to work’, and paved road to ‘fit body’ and ‘improved posture’ in the bag!! And many other goals started too. For some I’ve already achieved the ‘mind set’, and others ‘planted the seeds’. SO EXCITED!

Inner Beauty: Directly Related to Spirituality?

•March 6, 2012 • 3 Comments

Question mark in Esbjerg

Thinking outside the box of what your parents/guardians,etc. may have taught you… I would like to hear your personal opinions on the following question: Can ‘inner beauty‘ be purchased?

One generic internet definition I found: Inner beauty is a concept used to describe the positive aspects of something that is not physically observable.

[Polled Answer #1: Yes, through peace of mind that money brings.]

[Polled Answer #2: I heard it said once that money is like health: You don’t really think about them when you have them, but you think about them ALL THE TIME when you don’t. So I would say no.

Me: So, just for clarification: Are you saying that if a person is wealthy, they don’t think about / consider the need for/ or¬†¬† desire¬†‘inner beauty‘, therefore they would never use their funds to purchase it?? …if in fact purchasing inner beauty was an option…

Poll Respondent #2: I think I was more reacting to¬†(the first answer’s)¬†line of thought: that inner peace¬†is a prereq¬†for inner beauty… Though I disagree that money can truly offer inner peace, thus inner beauty can’t be bought.]

[Poll Respondent #1: Okay let me clarify. Its not¬†to say that inner beauty is obsolete without money but, with more you can be¬†more do more have more. I had it instilled in me as a child that “money” or people with money was a negative. When obviously its not. At the end of the day we all have to trade time for money. Is it not possible that people are limited¬†to the box they were raised¬†in unable to find there true self.Therefore there inner beauty never had a chance¬†to shine. This is a vice versa answer.]

So again, we see where one question leads to a plethora of others. Including: How would you define ‘inner beauty’? Can it truly be defined or is its¬†definition always according to a personal belief? Is your own inner beauty directly related to your ‘spirituality’? ¬†Is it something you possess¬†innately? Can it be learned/cultivated/evolved or otherwise acquired? Does it boil down to a matter of discovering/embracing what is already there in¬†anyone? Can people really change who they are, or just their actions? …and perhaps for some, another question would be… Can money really buy you anything of value? or maybe: Are you considering the question thoroughly enough? Do you ultimately think in terms of¬†black and white, good and evil, positive or negative? (Is Schr√∂dinger’s cat dead or alive?)

Would you ever consider paying for a seminar titled, “Establish &¬†Emanate¬†Your Inner Beauty”?

Signs my husband secretly wants a puppy:

•February 26, 2012 • Leave a Comment

Puppy in the grass

Puppy in the grass (Photo credit: justmakeit)

He refers to my boobs as ‘lil puppy’s fighting to get out’ as he pets them…

…. let’s face it, picking up the crumbs a 2yr old leaves behind is a never-ending job…unless you have a puppy

He compares me to them: “you’re like a little puppy that gets so excited it piddles on the floor”…

He’ll take any excuse he can get, to buy new shoes…

He loves nothing more than for me to show his toes a little attention (licky, licky)…

Left-overs are ‘for the birds’… only the birds won’t eat it either…

He loves it when I wear a collar! ūüėČ

{more to come, I’m sure}

Teach them by example, here’s how:

•February 26, 2012 • 3 Comments

English: Soap bubbles
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Play with them! Listen to them! Love them!

 

One aspect involved in being¬†a Good¬†parent = playing the silly little games that simply¬†need your attention and your smile. (…your heart)

 

A personal example: “Noses”…A game my son loves to play where you rub noses together and giggle. A game that has gone on for months. It happens at random times throughout the day, and some days only once. But every time¬†it does happen, he loves it. It makes him feel like he has an ‘inside-joke’ connecting him, to the people in his life, in a very¬†special way.

 

To play with a kid: you simply have to get down on their level¬†and give them your attention. That’s it. They do all the playing. All you have to do is be present¬†and respond or react/engage. If I just sit on the floor in my sons play area, he is drawn¬†to me like a magnet. He’ll come running and start handing me his toys, or asking me where certain toys are (so we can look for them together), or he’ll bring me a book and sit on my lap so I can read to him. He loves to play with any of us that are willing. Of course it’s easiest for me now¬†since I’m not in school or going to work each day. He is my priority. But it really makes play time with his siblings and Daddy so much more special; because it’s long awaited.

 

Daddy can get X belly laughing by simply changing his own expression. (ie: scary face, sad face, excitement/joy) Or showing an exaggerated reaction to something X does.  (ie: jumping back as to show shock or surprise)

 

How simple is that?

 

And from the kid’s perspective: they are loved, they are entertaining, they are important, what they say and do matters, they have cool parents, they are happy, they are comforted¬†(rather than lonely), they are having a blast. They immediately feel all the wonderful things we try to teach our children. “Teach them by example, here’s how”. This is the easiest way to promote a healthy self-esteem within them. Your love teaches them value. The strength of their own value and their ability to recognize it is what will make them ‘successful’ in life.

 

Why wouldn’t you want your child to flourish with your love?

 

These are among the¬†memories that¬†your kids¬†will remember for a lifetime. This is bonding. It’s so simple. All it takes is you, your kid, and time together…playing.

 

[Boy I tell ya what: Sometimes all this playing together during the day makes bedtime heartbreaking.]

 

 

 

Backwards Thinking. Don’t know where to begin?

•February 24, 2012 • Leave a Comment

Money

Money (Photo credit: 401K)

I was trying to explain my thoughts on ‘Backwards Thinking’ to my girlfriend the other day and decided it may be a good blog post as well… So here goes.

People probably have asked you throughout your life, what would you do if you¬†suddenly had¬†some exorbitant amount of money. (Consider it being after tax¬†taken, for you anal folk) What were your answers? Did they change from time to time as you got older? …as you got wiser? Was there a particular trend? Did you think through, ‘what would be the smart answer?’ or was it more like ‘what’s the most expensive thing I could buy?’ or maybe it was along the lines of, ‘what would truly make my heart leap with joy?’, or ‘what am I passionate about?’

So What Would You Do? Be honest with yourself when you answer that question.

I, for one, know what I would do and almost the exact order I would do it too. This is a particular situation where ‘Backwards Thinking’ works for me:

0) Drink/celebrate as soon as I found out, even before receiving/cashing etc. (Just being honest folks!)

1) Create a financial plan. (Once done with this exercise my financial plan will be vaguely complete and just need tweaking)

2) Receive/Cash,etc then Deposit what has been budgeted to be set aside for savings.

3) Take our family out to dinner. (Discuss Financial Plan)

4) Buy a car. Probably 2. (One for D and one for me.)

5) Pay debts owed. (School loans, Credit, Living Expenses, etc.)

6) Go shopping, with the family. for our family. (clothes, shoes, accessories…)

7) Grocery shopping. (A whole new kind when not so consumed with cheap-n-easy)

8) Massages, Hair, Pedis, etc. (Body Beautification Project, again for whole family)

9) Minor helps to close friends.

10) Consider and apply some ways to make our money grow.

11) Buy a house.

12) Buy New Furniture & Kitchenware

13) Toys & Entertainment

14) Get Passports

15) Me & D Vacation/Honeymoon/Anniversary, etc.

17) Family Vacations

18) More extensive Help to Friends

19) Cosmetic Fix

20) Charity (while feeling guilty I didn’t sooner)

21) I could go on and on…. adding more in between what I already have listed. Getting more and more in detail. But I’m too excited and have to move on to the bulk of my …negative numbers… (poor word usage there for sure, in this sense I’m not meaning philosophical negative).¬†I can always go back and finesse this list later.

So now what? Well now I have a set of goals. I have a generic plan towards the end closest to reaching my goals. And now it’s a matter of continuing this example of ‘backwards thinking’ to come up with a plan to¬†get this ‘money’.

New set: How are you coming upon this money? Well I’m not buying into the idea of winning it. And I honestly believe the best way to get it is to make it.

So we’ll make that number negative 1.

-1) MAKE money

Sounds easy enough untill you start thinking about the rate at which you are currently¬†paid. Right? And then you’re like, crap…there’s no way. Otherwise I’d have met my goals already and be living the afore-mentioned¬†life right now.

Ok, I’m with ya in empathy. But what I want to stress here is that this way of thinking; all the reasons it can’t work for you right now: is the negative prone psyche you have to throw out and replace with a Positive Psychology!

You can do it! Just do it (yay for Nike)!

Next question: “How much will it take?” (How much¬†was the exorbitant amount of money you started with?)

Maybe the next question is similar to: “What’s the best way to make that kind of money?” Is it by working in a certain position for someone else/another company? Is it better to start your own company? Would it make more sense, and does it sound more time efficient to have money coming in from multiple sources? (ie: investments, side business, job, liquidating something else)

Perhaps the next question to answer down one line of thinking¬†is: “What rate of pay would it take?”¬† Followed closely by, “What can I do, to position¬†myself in a spot that would earn that kind of money?”¬† “Do I need more tools to get there? (ie: additional education?) What’s the answer to your questions? Are you now seeing what belongs on numbers -2) thru -10)?

Keep going down this route of backwards thinking. Be sure to write down¬†your answers. Continue till the point of knowing “What step do you take right now in this moment? and the next?” and so on…

Then all there is left to do is follow your plan… or die trying! In the words from Meet the Robinson’s, “Keep Moving Forward!” or as Tony Robbins says, “Take MASSIVE Action!” Again with the Nike, “JUST DO IT!” You should be seeing the Big Picture by now. ūüėČ Happy Travels!

Childhood Forts!

•February 23, 2012 • 2 Comments

Tried to make a fort with the lil¬†man today… he kinda missed the idea of hanging out under it… he thinks he needs to “slide” down the top…. lol … silly kid!