Teach them by example, here’s how:

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Play with them! Listen to them! Love them!


One aspect involved in being a Good parent = playing the silly little games that simply need your attention and your smile. (…your heart)


A personal example: “Noses”…A game my son loves to play where you rub noses together and giggle. A game that has gone on for months. It happens at random times throughout the day, and some days only once. But every time it does happen, he loves it. It makes him feel like he has an ‘inside-joke’ connecting him, to the people in his life, in a very special way.


To play with a kid: you simply have to get down on their level and give them your attention. That’s it. They do all the playing. All you have to do is be present and respond or react/engage. If I just sit on the floor in my sons play area, he is drawn to me like a magnet. He’ll come running and start handing me his toys, or asking me where certain toys are (so we can look for them together), or he’ll bring me a book and sit on my lap so I can read to him. He loves to play with any of us that are willing. Of course it’s easiest for me now since I’m not in school or going to work each day. He is my priority. But it really makes play time with his siblings and Daddy so much more special; because it’s long awaited.


Daddy can get X belly laughing by simply changing his own expression. (ie: scary face, sad face, excitement/joy) Or showing an exaggerated reaction to something X does.  (ie: jumping back as to show shock or surprise)


How simple is that?


And from the kid’s perspective: they are loved, they are entertaining, they are important, what they say and do matters, they have cool parents, they are happy, they are comforted (rather than lonely), they are having a blast. They immediately feel all the wonderful things we try to teach our children. “Teach them by example, here’s how”. This is the easiest way to promote a healthy self-esteem within them. Your love teaches them value. The strength of their own value and their ability to recognize it is what will make them ‘successful’ in life.


Why wouldn’t you want your child to flourish with your love?


These are among the memories that your kids will remember for a lifetime. This is bonding. It’s so simple. All it takes is you, your kid, and time together…playing.


[Boy I tell ya what: Sometimes all this playing together during the day makes bedtime heartbreaking.]





~ by Flawless Destiny on February 26, 2012.

3 Responses to “Teach them by example, here’s how:”

  1. Can’t agree more!

  2. My family just watched the movie “Courageous” (http://courageousthemovie.com/themovie) again last night. It reminds you of how important it is to spend time with your kids and family as 1) you never know how much time you will have to do so and 2) it makes such an impact in the choices our kids may make as they grow. The stats tell us that kids without parents (especially dads) are so much more likely to end up in gangs or prison or an early grave.

    Spend time with your kids! It is a great call and a great reminder. You can never get the time back once it has passed.


  3. Thank you for this precious reminder!

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